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Psychological dos & don’ts to make you stand out in a crowd

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As COVID restrictions ease up, the human race prepares to reunite. While the transition back to normalcy is all well and good, I can’t help but feel a tinge of social anxiety I’ve never had before. And I’m not the only one.

Experts say it’s natural to feel anxious after over a year of quarantine. Case therapist at Northwestern Medicine Central DuPage Hospital, Leslie J. Adams, explains:

“Dealing with long periods of isolation can increase social anxiety. Even those who would consider themselves naturally more extroverted could be struggling.”

My nerves are a mix of feeling rusty garnished with the…


You will literally sound, like, so much smarter.

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The English language is on life support, hanging on by a mere thread of spellchecks and the last few surviving attention spans. It has endured years of abuse by strict character counts and the butchered slang of popular culture. Social media is ruthless, and the distorted lingo of funny GIFs and trending memes is slowly seeping into our everyday language.

In an interview with the Daily Mail, Marie Clair of the Plain English Campaign explained, “young people create their own language because they don’t want to sound like stuffy adults.” But what happens when adults start using teen-speak? Who’s left…


It’s not as glamorous as you think.

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I may not be an expert when it comes to successful relationships, but I know a dysfunctional one when I see it. I’ve suffered my fair share of dating fails. My high school sweetheart was hardly sweet. He dumped me at prom after stealing my virginity and self-esteem for years to come, which led me to my second boyfriend…

A certified pathological liar who told different versions of a similar story depending upon his target audience, and my third? Ah yes, he was a keeper, until he knocked up his best friend’s girlfriend. Need I continue?

Assuming that I’ve earned…


How a rejected documentary pitch led to 2.2M+ followers, a non-profit organization, and a creator community within one year

Are You Happy on TikTok

“Toby Keith, the country singer, is our new biggest fan. He’s been in my DMs. Hey Toby, Toby, if you’re in this chat, I’m sorry I haven’t responded yet, brother. It’s crazy right now.” — Atdhe Trepca on Instagram Live

Atdhe Trepca is a 20-something-year-old filmmaker who started traveling the world to ask random strangers one simple question, “Are you happy?” He set out in search of the happiest person on the planet and, while he’s come pretty darn close, the search still continues. …


Women file for divorce twice as often as men, according to research

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One of the largest studies on divorce, conducted by law professor Margaret Brinig and economist Douglas Allen, found that women file for divorce twice as often as men do. Even in my experience with pre-marital relationships, females seem to do the most breaking up there too. That doesn’t mean women are unwilling to try fixing what’s broken before giving up. In fact, women are more likely to invest in tools that could improve the relationship, such as self-help books, counseling, and couples therapy.

This is probably why women are also cited to move on more quickly after a breakup. They’ve…


I didn’t get the bonus in May, but I just received one for June

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I view my Medium Partner Program earnings daily. I know, it’s a problem…but the last few months have been surprisingly successful, as far as making money on Medium goes, and I’m trying to find a method to the madness. This morning I laid in bed, confused. It’s only the third day of the month and my total earnings were showing $517.47.


Research says women with this gene are more likely to cheat

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I had barely answered the phone before Emma blurted, “Liv, I screwed up.”

“What happened?” I asked, though I already knew the answer.

“I cheated on Jon last night,” she said, distressed.

“Ok, just breathe. It’s going to be OK.”

“No, it’s not. Not this time. I cheated on him. Again.”

She said it, not me. I was relieved that I wouldn’t have to remind Emma that this wasn’t the first time she cheated on Jon, nor was it the first time she cheated in general. …


5 publications fight to become Medium’s next top relationship pub

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Whether you write or follow stories about relationships, you’ve probably already heard. P.S. I Love You, Medium’s top publication for relationships, is saying goodbye. As the news ripples through Medium, both readers and writers are shocked, saddened, and unsure of what’s next.

Luckily for the 292k followers of the beloved publication, P.S. I Love You also disclosed in their letter that they will not be removing themselves from Medium. Readers will still be able to browse and enjoy PSILY stories even after June 30th, which will mark their last day publishing new articles.

While passionate authors of the publication —…


You’ll take more risks, which research proves could lead to a more fulfilling life

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Dating an extrovert can be intimidating, especially if you yourself are more introverted by nature. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try. It’s true what they say, opposites really do attract. I’ve seen lots of wallflowers blossom and thrive from their relationships with overtly social partners who have introduced an ingredient into their lives that’s often missing: spontaneity.

In an interview with Bustle, psychologist and media commentator, Dr. Kim Chronister stresses the importance of improvisation in healthy relationships. She explains how spontaneity can help make an old relationship feel fresh again. …


Autobiographies, philosophies, and fiction to feed your wanderlust

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People travel to escape their everyday routine, step outside of their comfort zone, and experience another way of life that is not inherently their own. It’s the same reason why people read.

I didn’t start traveling extensively until my late twenties. In 2019 alone, I managed to visit five continents in the span of nine months. I had no clue that less than a year later, all of the diverse countries I visited would have a virus in common, or that I would be forced into lockdown with the rest of the world.

Whether you’re tired of quarantine and eager…

Liv Mello

7x Top Writer | Weaving personal narrative with psychology to deliver meaningful content. Hire me at liv@livinlavida.blog

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