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Liv Mello

It’s a mindset, not a game.

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I could see my cousin Lauren’s phone blowing up as we shared a bottle of wine. There were too many notifications to fit the lock screen. She dismissed countless Instagram DMs, text messages, missed calls, Bumble notifications, and Facebook requests as we searched the Internet for the best bars in San Diego. When we used her phone for GPS, I swiped thirteen more notifications.

“How do you do it?” I finally asked her.

“Do what?”

“Get all these people to chase after you like this?”

“I don’t know,” she hesitated, “I’ve never really thought about it before.”

And that, my…

It’s not as glamorous as you think.

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I may not be an expert when it comes to successful relationships, but I know a dysfunctional one when I see it. I’ve suffered my fair share of dating fails. My high school sweetheart was hardly sweet. He dumped me at prom after stealing my virginity and self-esteem for years to come, which led me to my second boyfriend…

A certified pathological liar who told different versions of a similar story depending upon his target audience, and my third? Ah yes, he was a keeper, until he knocked up his best friend’s girlfriend. Need I continue?

Assuming that I’ve earned…

And it changed the course of my life.

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The kangaroo was more interested in Mel’s oatmeal than capturing the moment. Still, Mel managed to snap a few selfies. It was March 3rd, 2019 and by sheer chance, I was also at the Australian Reptile Park. I noticed Mel and her marsupial friend and asked if they wanted me to take a photo for them. Mel laughed and said yes. Roo stole some more oats.

Exercise your excitatory cells to help achieve the life you desire.

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I had no idea how tall the cliff was, but my body didn’t care. It panicked. My heart was pounding. My knees buckled. My hands shook. I was strangely aware of my skull as fear sent blood rushing to my brain.

Have you ever stood on the roof of a tall building and physically shuddered at the thought of falling? Well, this was worse because — as much as I would have loved to stay a safe distance away — I knew I was going to jump.

Risk-taking looks different to all of us. There are daredevils that feed off…

Do I wish I wrote something more eloquent? Nah.

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I’ll admit it. I’ve been trying to go viral on Medium for months. I’ve written advice columns, travel journals, heavily researched relationship pieces, science-driven health articles, current events. Nothing stuck.

Until I recently got a tiny taste of virality on Medium’s top relationship publication, P.S. I Love You.

With 6.5k views and $320 income in a single week, the spike was both exciting and unexpected. My only apprehension? This viral article was about farting on my boyfriend.

Don’t believe me? See for yourself.

I could tell myself that I used farting as a clever metaphor for the comfortability that exists…

Author, Amy Tan urges writers to take notes while reading

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Writers are supposed to read but if you’re anything like me, you don’t. Or else, you try to read and struggle. One sentence away from the end of a bestseller and my mind is still wandering. Why? Either I’m feeling guilty about reading instead of writing, or else I’m thinking about whatever it is I should be writing instead.

But reading is important, especially as a writer. Ask any successful writer out there, how can I improve my craft? They’ll all say the same thing. Read. Read novels you love. Read essays you hate. Explore different genres and styles. Study…

They don’t have to prove their love to the internet

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Happiness is easy to obtain when you’re in the right relationship, but truly happy couples are hard to come by these days. They’re even harder to differentiate from the rest. Unhappy couples try really hard to disguise themselves as being truly happy. But we know better.

Here are six subtle things that happy couples do differently.

They don’t publicize their love on social media

They don’t have to. They don’t have anything to prove. While this might be a stark overgeneralization, in my personal experience, truly happy couples tend to be the quietest couples on the internet.

Trustworthy, confident partners tend to foster more harmonious relationships as they’re…

How an insult from a reader liberated me as a writer.

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I recently received a pretty insulting comment on one of my articles. But instead of feeling offended, I felt liberated.

Without getting into specifics, this reader essentially told me that my opinion is irrelevant. I found this both ironic and flattering considering the fact that, until recent years, I never had an opinion at all.

To suddenly have an opinion, whether it was one that mattered or not, felt like an accomplishment!

I used to think my easygoing nature was a personality strength. That’s what the quizzes in Seventeen Magazine always said. It wasn’t until college that I realized I…

God willing

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I am the man.

I am the man who sets the TV volume on even numbers only. Now, crank it up a notch because you chose 21 and it’s not sitting well.

I’m the man who races against the microwave and wins every time.

I’m the man with eyes destined to see 11:11, twice a day, seven days a week.

I am the man in the rain, restarting his car to send the windshield wipers safely home. I am the storm.

I roll the toothpaste tube. I organize the cash in my wallet. I check a locked door after I’ve…

Liv Mello

Writing about travel, psychology, and relationships through personal narrative. Advocate of spontaneous vulnerability.

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